|Posted by One Heart Midwifery on April 12, 2018 at 9:35 PM||comments (0)|
Ever BODY needs massage even the very youngest. Newborns and babies can have twists, turns and tension just like adults. Massage can help unwind the tension and bring greater comfort, sleep and feedings. For children they can sleep better, be happier and move easier. Kaleem is open on Mondays and Thursdays to work with babies and children. She hopes to have access to warm water to add this to their therapy.
|Posted by One Heart Midwifery on March 26, 2016 at 11:20 PM||comments (0)|
One day a little baby decides it is time to meet their family. From this wet wonderful warm world they emerge to breath and expand. This time is so important that they have space from the world to expand into their being. The Forth Trimester is the time they need. Hold them close and snuggle them well. They want to feed, feel you near them and be carried a lot. Put them in the external pouch as they learn about the world with you. When you pouch them for 3 more months and then follow their lead to reach out to the world to touch it, let them touch it.
This world we live in is a whole new world for a new born baby. It is huge, and constantly changing and asking things new of them every day. Be patient with their growth and expanion, they will expand. In fact they will expand so well that they will learn to roll over, crawl, walk and someday go away on their own. Help them be confident and courageous by giving them time to expand in the beginning.
Love them lots and snuggle them well. They will love you and snuggle you too.
|Posted by One Heart Midwifery on December 18, 2015 at 3:30 AM||comments (0)|
What does "P" have to do with birth? Check it out!
Birth is all about the 5 P's.
The power, passage, passanger, passion and purpose.
Lets explore each.
Preparation: Your birth space should be tidy, warm, relaxing and attended by only those that trust in the process. Have your provider know what your desires are. Find your power within that desires the birth you want. Own it, imagine it and trust it.
Power: the power behind the amazing muscle called the Uterus or Womb is called Oxytocin. This hormone demands an environment that is calm, trusting, private and low light. Encouragment and support are essential for the mind to allow this hormone to flow. When this hormone flows well the power flows and birth progresses smoothly.You need a mind that is quiet.
Passenger: The baby is an integral part in helping the cervix ( the neck of the uterus) to do it's job in telling the uterus to work well. When the baby gets into a good head down, back up front with a tucked chin position, birth goes better.
Passage: The baby can get into the optimum position better and move through easier when the passage or your hips are flexible and fluid. Remember bones are only held together with soft tissue as muscles and ligaments. The looser and more flexible they are the easier the birth for you and the baby.
Passion: The intention within you to birth your baby and work together as a team will help the passion to support the progress of birth. The oxytocin hormone ( love hormone) asks for your trust and responds by moving forward.
Purpose: Keep in mind the reason you are giving birth. Your baby needs your trust in the process and the power to move forward. Having a birth that is completely natural is a journey within your mind, heart, spirit and whole being.
How can you achieve all the "P"'s? Walk, swim, yoga, use a birth ball to circle your hips. Go to a pregnancy specialist massage therapist. She/He can assist you to increase the flexability of the pelvis which baby gets into a better position which makes labor progress and baby is born well.
Prepare your mind by using positive affirmations. Draw them, write them, put them up and look at them.
Get quiet with your mind and just focus on your breath.
Trust, trust, trust!!!!! Yourself, your body, your baby and nature.
Blessings on your birth and baby.
|Posted by One Heart Midwifery on November 28, 2014 at 5:35 PM||comments (0)|
This is a time of change
This has been a year of transition and change for most people. Each family that has a new baby coming into their life begins a new journey. This new life bring hope, joy and adventure. Remember as you go into the first 3 months of life that a baby is in a 4th Trimester. The baby spends 3 trimesters in your tummy and another in your pouch. When you take and own the 4th trimester and know that you baby's whole world is to nurse or feed and be carried and rocked. At three months there is a magical change and they come up out of the pouch eager to begin to see the world. It is at this time that they begin to reach out to touch the world and see more and stay away longer. They are not ready to be away from you just ready to see the world with you. Be patient with this time as it will pass all to quickly. Rest as much as possible. Eat well, drink well and make your to do list small.
We have reminded mothers that have other children. If everyone is fed and safe it has been a good day. Anything else is extra. Dads, know that your work is appreciated. All the extra meals you prepare, the laundry that you will do, the grocery shopping with the other kids and the rest that you will miss too.
Be grateful to each other everyday. When you are extra tired, be more grateful for each other and all the work you are both doing to keep up with the tasks at hand.
May you take every moment and cherish it for tomorrow those moments are only memory.
|Posted by One Heart Midwifery on August 3, 2013 at 8:00 PM||comments (0)|
Every Baby is an amazing journey. When they are born we are to celebrate and honor their journey too. They are new life, new energy and new experiences for everyone they meet.
When you are pregnant, take time to just sit and listen to your baby. Talk to your baby and just be with them. Away from all the distractions and hubub of life. They are in an ecosystem that is perfectly made for them. It is surrounded by a mothers body and then by the world.
When they are born, keep them close, stay inside, better yet your bedroom for a few days. This world is so big for them. Remember they have to do a lot of transitioning from the womb to out here. Gravity, temperature, digestion, heart and lungs redirected, pooping, touch and communicating their needs. All the first day you are born. Infact, many in the first hour. That is a lot to integrate.
Celebrate who they are, who you are now as a family.
We appreciate all of you near and far away for all that you do with your babies and children.
|Posted by One Heart Midwifery on August 22, 2011 at 9:10 PM||comments (1)|
Mothers and their newborn babies are reminded to trust their instincts to birth, breastfeed and to love. When there are well meaning familiy members who come, especially in the first week to "help", a mothers instincts can be interrupted. It is normal for a new mother to want to keep her new baby in her arms and in bed with her. She knows instincturally that a baby is meant to be kept warm and tended to in her arms and on her chest. Years ago women were taught by hospital staff to not sleep with their babies, not breast feed their babies and certainly not to hold them too much or they will become spoiled.
A newborn infant is programed to stay near a mothers breast. It learns to regulate breathing by being near her breath and hearing her heart which is familiar from the womb. If loving grandparents and family will remember this and stay with the mothers room and ASK to hold a new baby, not take them, and do so for only a moment and then hand them back, a new mother will feel the respect and support much more. Family can best serve a new mother by doing dishes, laundry, tending syblings, and especially preparing food and drinks for the mother and have it available for her at all times. Sleeping with her baby in her arms is normal. It is not easy for a new mother to sleep when her baby is somewhere else.
Breast feeding is a demand issue. The baby cues the mother and the mother learns the cues. When others care for the baby this is interrupted. The father does well to burp and change diapers and help the mom by supporting her to Breast feed as much as the baby requests
Babies are on breast more than off in the first few weeks. Family and fathers can best support a new mom in helping her to have what she needs so she can tend the baby.
Mothers trust your instints!! They are always there for you to listen to. Your babies have lived inside your body for 9 months and they need to live close to you for another 3. It is the 4th trimester and they are meant to be in a pouch or sling or in your arms.
Love them abundantly and they will be confident toddlers.
|Posted by Randi Fay Payton on August 7, 2011 at 9:50 PM||comments (0)|
Here are some helpful video clips, websites and books all about breastfeeding!
Kaleems favorite Ameda latch on video. A must see for optimal newborn latching!
Ameda: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vCe-6KgSFhk the whole video is 5 minutes and wonderful, but if you need to cut to the latching in a hurry, watch the section from :50 to 2:00.
A youtube search for "Jack Newman Breastfeeding" will show some of Dr. Jack Newmans more helpful latch on advise.
La Leche League: http://www.lllusa.org/
Ina May's Guide to Breastfeeding
The womanly art of breastfeeding by Teresa Pitman
More to come soon!
|Posted by Randi Fay Payton on April 7, 2011 at 2:28 AM||comments (0)|
I am sitting and trying to write my "intro" for our new web site and Marlene is on the other computer watching a bald eagle sit in it’s nest hatching eggs. For the past hour the mamma eagle has been sleeping. It got up once to reposition it’s self over the eggs. The temp is 45 degrees and the wind is blowing. It drifts off to sleep and then stirs. These eggs were suppose to hatch 2 days ago. There are some 70,000 viewers waiting for the eggs to hatch into these cute little fluffy chicks.
Some women in the last weeks and days of pregnancy must feel so much like that mama eagle...sitting in a windstorm, trying to sleep but always up stirring, repositioning, unable to get a whole lot of relief from the elements and certainly feeling like there are full eggs under her bottom...all the while what seems like 70,000 family members are watching and waiting for the belly to hatch.
We midwifes eagerly watch these eagle mamas and babies still unhatched and we cannot help but apply it to midwifery...to our human mamas and babies. We as mothers learn to be patient as we near the unwritten day of birth. We wait on our babies to finish every last detail and make their way forth. Midwives must have patience too in order to walk the process with a woman as she trusts her body and baby to work together...give her support, encourage her as she walks the last weeks and final days of growing her baby under her heart, before it moves over her heart into her arms. You are diligent mothers, caring for your babies and doing whatever it takes to keep them safe, warm and loved. Just like the mother eagles strong and silent in the midst of the night in dark, icy winds, you are strong in your desire to give the very best to your babies, including one more day of pregnancy. Know that we walk this journey with you.
Visit www.nestcam.com to see the journey of these beautiful eagles as they become parents!
Tag words: Term, Due Date, Estimated Due Date, Past Due Date, Third Trimester,
|Posted by Randi Fay Payton on March 22, 2011 at 3:00 PM|
Homebirth and Midwifery:
This wonderful article is a great starting point for someone unfamiliar with midwifery and home birth or anyone exploring home birth and/or Midwifery:
Good websites to surf:
Cesarean Section and VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean):
A wonderful website for those considering VBAC or seeking more information:
Homebirth and/or Midwifery Documentaries:
Pregnant In America (can be found on Netflix) or visit www.pregnantinamerica.com
Business of Being Born (also found on Netflix) or visit www.thebusinessofbeingborn.com
If you have some links or books you would like to recommend we add here, please let us know by emailing 1HeartMidwifery@gmail.com with your suggestions! Thanks!
|Posted by One Heart Midwifery on December 3, 2010 at 6:05 PM|
Marlene Smith-Story and Philosophy
1. Who I Was
2. How I Birthed/Hospital
3. Mother of 9
4. How I Birthed Hospital/Home
5. Grandmother Tuki of 19
6. How I Came To Love Good Birth
7. Why I decided to Become a Midwife
8. How I became a Midwife
9. What is happening to me today
10. Why does it matter
1. Who I was~
All of my life as a young girl, I couldn’t wait to have babies of my own. I would purposefully sit behind a young mother in church so that if I could get up the courage, I could ask her to hold her baby. Most of them were quite happy to let me. I babysat my way through junior high school, and hoped that someday I would be able to perhaps become a nurse who worked in the nursery at a hospital, so that I could be around babies all of the time.
I met my future husband during my high school years and he and I got married when we were 19. I couldn’t wait to begin my family and was encouraged by the tenets of our religion, which taught us to multiply and replenish without regard to the financial or educational consequences because, God would bless us for our efforts. It was all the permission I needed to get started right away. I seemed to follow in the footsteps of my pioneer ancestors and was extremely fertile, because on our first attempt, we became pregnant. I should say I became pregnant. I get a little annoyed at the “we” part, because, it really isn’t a we thing at that point and there is no way any man can understand what it really feels like to be pregnant no matter how many pillows he stuffs under his shirt.
2. How I birthed/hospital
I was very excited to become a mother and have my own little baby to play with. I was staunchly opposed to taking drugs of any kind, and signed up for Lamaze Classes and spent time talking to my mother on the phone about having babies. She told me that it felt like a really bad stomachache and that she did not take drugs for her birth, and that she never needed any stitches so I came into my birth a little cocky about my ability to handle everything, piece of cake. The first thing that happened to us that should have tipped me off that I wasn’t going to be in control of it all, was when my OBGYN said that he would not allow my husband in the delivery room because he did not want to worry about him fainting etc. Because of our young ages and the fact that we had been brought up to respect authority, we did not push the issue, feeling that the doctor ‘knew best’.
When my water broke 4 weeks early with a big gush (while standing at the concession counter of a movie theater) we got home, called the Dr. and he said “your labor will probably begin in a couple of hours, then go to the hospital”. We sat at home timing contractions for a few hours, then packed up and drove to Mercy San Juan Hospital where we checked in. I was put in a labor box about 6 feet by 10 feet, no windows and was ‘allowed’ one person at a time to sit with me. I was given an enema (to clean me out), and my pubic hair was shaved all the way off, because of course, I was ‘dirty’ down there. I used a pull-down toilet that came out of wall, no privacy at all, then donned by hospital gown, and climbed up onto a very high bed to wait. Some time during the night around 3am, I received a shot in my butt that was supposed to allow me to relax and sleep a bit. It was a Visterol/Demerol cocktail and I believe that it really allowed the OB to get a full night’s sleep before he had to come to the hospital. For a young girl that had never touched any drug at all, I felt very violated. It caused me to go into a fog, with contractions that woke me up like a very loud fog horn every 3 or 4 minutes. I have a recollection of a nurse checking me about 7:30 am and saying, well, it’s time to take you into the delivery room. I had to lift my transistional body onto a guerney, and was wheeled into a very cold room, flat on my back, and then was asked to life myself onto a delivery/surgical table. I remembered worrying that I had my glasses with me as I wanted to see my baby be born. I was draped with green sheets, and a small mirror was positioned behind the Dr. who got into my line of sight most of the time. An anesthesioligist kept trying to put a gas mask over my face that I kept pushing away with my free hand, my other hand was being restrained by a wrist strap. I don’t remember the episitomy very well, because I was still stinging from the numbing medication he injected into me, but I do remember the feeling of being pulled off the table as the Dr. inserted forceps into me and pulled out the baby. A very lusty baby was dumped on my green draped belly. I reached up to touch him, remember that I was flat on my back, and was promptly told not to touch him because I would break the sterile field. His cord was cut, he was held up so that I could see him for all of 3 seconds, then he was whisked away to a warmer and then wheeled out of the delivery room to the nursery. I was told to lie still and was sutured up and taken to a recovery room, where my uterus was mashed at 10 minute intervals, and I patiently waited to see my husband who was finally allowed back by my side. Two hours later, I was taken to a private room, with a window! The staff thought that I would appreciate having that. Four hours later, a nurse came in an asked me if I was ready to see my baby. He was brought to me, bathed, dressed, wrapped and probably fed, completely asleep. I was commanded not to unwrap him as he might get cold, and he was too asleep to nurse, so I just held that little blanked bundle and stared at him for the 30 minutes that I was allowed to have him. When the nurse came back in to take him away, I gave him to her obediently and waited for four more hours to pass so that I could get him back. The first 3 days of our lives together were spent like that. Three and a half hours apart, 30 minutes together trying to nurse, mostly not. I came home shell shocked from my birth, happy that I had got him out through my vagina, but confused as to why my experience left me feeling that I was not really a mother and like I didn’t really know this little boy.
3. Mother of 9
Much changed in my life over the course of my childbearing. Lucky for me, I kept having children until I could get it right, which being the hard head that I am, took 9 times! I did vow never to go back to Mercy San Juan or use the Dr. that delivered #1 and to this day, I choose not to walk into that hospital. The next babies were born at Kaiser Morse. Delivering babies was evolving, thanks to the efforts of many whom I did not even know at that time. My #2 son, was born in the Kaiser delivery room (also labored in a box) but they dimmed the lights, put me on a small wedge under my back so that I wasn’t flat and only gave me “just a little cut”. I was a much better experience for me as I was fully awake and able to hold him in the delivery room for 30 minutes before they took him to the nursery. Two hours later, they reunited us in my room (a 4 bed sleep over with women telling their birth stories all day long and most of the night). I did have a curtain between us, but no real privacy. Nursing was better and I was happier. #3 was born on the guerney while they were trying to get me into the delivery room, surprise, no tears and an extremely happy mom. The nurses were frantic but the Dr. told them to leave me alone and just “let her birth”. I’ll never forget his words, they changed me forever. My first daughter was Kaiser’s 1st ABC room (stands for Alternative Birth Center) room. That meant that once I was laboring, and had been checked to make sure that I was at least 5 centimeters dilated, I was admitted into the bigger labor box, and was told that if everything went well, I could stay in that bigger box, and deliver there and not be moved into the delivery room. I arrived at Kaiser in the morning and was told that I was 3 cent. We left the hospital, laboring at malls, and restaurants and in the car until I could hardly walk from the car to the door of the hospital. The nurses saw me and rushed out with a wheel chair. My daughter was born 45 minutes later. After recovering I was moved into the slumber party room, and she was taken to the nursery. Even though they were changing, they just couldn’t figure out that keeping mom and baby together was an okay. Daughters 4 and 5 were born very much the same, and I felt like I had finally found a way to birth that I could deal with. Then the amniotic fluid hit the fire!
4. How I Birthed/Home
I met a woman who was home schooling her children and was impressed by her love for them and her desire to keep them at home with her all day, an experience most mothers are happy to give to the school system. I asked her why she felt that way and she expressed to me that it was because of the way she birthed them. I felt like a beam from heaven had just descended upon me as she spoke about having her babies at home with a midwife. As she was pregnant at the time, we parted with me saying that if there was anything I could do to help her with her birth or after (thinking of childcare, food, etc) to call me. Two weeks later, my phone rang during the night and her friend said she was asking me to come to her home, that she was in labor and would like to invite me to be there at the birth. When I arrived, the house was quiet, dark and sacred. I couple of candles were burning and quiet voices of encouragement were heard. I was happy to be a fly on the wall as I watched in amazement as she quietly pushed out a baby, which was lifted into her arms, covered in warm blankets and left there! The mother held her baby, showering it with kisses and loving words while everyone else was silent. Her baby’s first experience with life on earth was the sound of touch of her mother. After 20 minutes, and placenta out, mother carried baby to bed, nursed for a long time, and then baby got weighed, dressed, and back to bed with mom. I was stunned. How simple, how sweet, how right. I went home with dawn breaking along with my heart for not knowing about this. Six babies born before I got the chance to see it done right. Though my husband and I thought we were done having children, we were wrong. Three more came our way. A home birth for me and number 7, a planned home birth that became a hospital birth because my little girl decided to get tangled up in her cord and left me before I could greet her, which is another story to tell, and a home birth for baby #9 at the age of 41 which was my biggest trust lesson. During the last 3 babies, I began attending births with my midwife as an extra pair of hands. I felt like I had finally found my calling. I got to be around babies frequently. I even took mine with me to births as I was now home schooling my girls and they would go with me to tend when needed.
5. Grandmother Tuki of 19
I had my babies the way I did because of a lack of understanding that there might be a better way. It took me a long time to discover what my ancester mothers already knew. I did not want my own daughters to go to their births without choice. I hoped they would choose good/home birth but knew that they would have to decide for themselves. They have made the choice to birth at home and it has been a wonderful, miraculous adventure to attend my daughters at home. My three girls have given birth to 9 babies, all at home. What surprised me was my son’s wives have also chosen to birth at home. They were lovingly offered our services and told that they needed to study and decide for themselves. I believe that a woman needs to want a home birth for her own reasons. If she chooses it to satisfy anyone else, it will not be as fulfilling for her, sometimes resulting in transport. After finding out what the medical world would offer them, these three women also have choosen to birth at home. One of them did a college paper on home birth as her way of learning more about the process. They have given me an additional 7 grandchildren. There are 3 more due this year 2010 which brings my grandmother bragging to 19, all born good at home. My grandmother name is Tuki which means ‘sweet’ which is not necessarily my personality but perhaps more with my indulgences.
6. How I came to love Good Birth
There was something else I was learning though that was profound. I learned that yes it was fun to be around the babies, but my joy in this work came from working and being around you mothers. You became my focus with the realization that the support and empowerment of you through birth celebrated your ability to fully embrace and realize your femininity, power and strength as women. Your feelings of self worth grew because of your strength and this transfers to your mothering. We mother with more passion, more attachment, more protection and most importantly, more enjoyment.
An empowering birth experience builds a foundation in us as women that allows us to weather the storms and winds of life. It gives us courage, determination, compassion, patience, endurance, gratitude and love. All of these attributes come together during one event, birth! There is no other time in our lives that we can be given so many gifts at once. It also gives us memories. The kind of memories that will cause us to smile in our old age with the knowledge that we did something special. We are so worth it.
I believe that a woman can have a good birth anywhere. It doesn’t have to be a home birth to be a good birth. You just have to work harder anywhere else but home.
You really don’t need a birth plan for home. All of your things are at home. We come to you, no bumpy car ride. We greet you quietly, and do not need to ask a million questions about you. You can eat, drink and go to the bathroom without asking permission of anyone. Your other children are home with you if you want them to be. They are in their own environment. You are the center of the experience at home and it’s all about you, your partner and your baby. The baby is welcomed safely, gently and with respect. I believe that the sacred moments immediately after birth should be a time of uninterrupted reverence when you and your baby can fall in love. When a birth is planned at home, the experience is one that you want to repeat someday. It is satisfying and you will love to share it with anyone who will listen.
7. Why I decided to become a midwife
When I am asked why I became a midwife, I smile. There is a beautiful movie I saw once and when the man an woman finally realize in amazement their love for each other she says to him, “don’t you realize that every step I have taken since I was that little girl on the bridge, has been to lead me to you”. I feel in looking back at my life and my story that every step I have taken since I was that little girl in church, hoping to hold a baby, was to lead me to midwifery. My greatest joy in life is listening to women tell their birth stories and how proud they are of themselves. I am fulfilled in the pride they have in their own abilities to birth and parent, and if I was available to them to help create the safety net for them to have a good/home birth then my work is worthwhile. In our practice we know we have done a good job, when we overhear a woman say when asked who delivered her baby, “I did”. I feel the most valuable when I am able to be the fly on the wall, and do the least.
8. How I became a midwife
A. Direct entry
I worked with the midwife I had for my last 3 children for 7 years as an extra pair of hands, kitchen help and eventually catching babies, mostly for women who asked me to. I never turned down a birth, missing birthdays, holidays, and anything else. I was completely hooked. I apprenticed under the Shaman’s rule, do anything, anytime to prove to your shaman that you want to learn. It wasn’t until Kaleem Joy came to town that everything came together.
Kaleem was a new midwife from the bay area who came to Sacramento to put her son in the Waldorf School here and start a midwifery practice. She was looking for a partner. I was looking for a way to become a midwife officially. We met, we found mutual honor and respect and value. Kaleem knew how to get me on the right track, and I still remember exactly the moment that she wrote out a check, put it in the mail to enroll me in the Seattle Midwifery School. I was excited and nervous because I knew within me that I would become a midwife someday. One Heart Midwifery Care was born on that day, still a baby, but vigorous and thriving.
From that day on, I studied and learned and went to every birth with Kaleem. She had an amazing ability to teach and step aside for me to get the hands on experience I needed. She was key to my education/experience. I had been attending births for 7 years and believed I could do it, but Kaleem gave me the ability to know I could. It took 3 years of study and hands on training and then the big day of testing. I tested for 2 days, both written and clinical with about 15 other hopeful midwives. I’ve never seen so many bottles of Resuce Remedy at one time. After passing the Seattle School’s Program, I took the NARM (National Association of Registered Midwives) exam and then applied for licensure at the California Board of Medicine. I was granted a license to practice midwifery in CA on December 28, 2001, followed shortly by my Certified Professional Midwife Certificate in March of 2002. I continue to follow the requirements of licensure which include continuing education units, CPR and neo-natal resusitation renewals at the proper intervals.
9. What is happening to me today
A. On going practice
Since One Heart Midwifery Care was started in January 2001, Kaleem and I have attended 450 women, families and their precious babies. We have celebrated each birth, cried with each miscarriage, weeped with 2 mothers whose babies did not cry. We have had 5 perfect children who came with Down Syndrome, including Courtney, my granddaughter, and have directed their parents to nutritive therapies and guided them into systems for assistance. We attended the funeral of Emily, 3 years old, one of our beautiful babies, hit by a car while chasing the ice cream truck. We have attended births in California, Utah, New York and Texas and have been asked to go to Lithuania and recently Israel as our families have moved all over the globe.
B. Greater trust and desire
I continue to believe in the sacredness of birth, that it is a moment in time when if we are willing, we can be shown just how strong we are as women and families. I believe that safety is always important and that the way we birth sets a seed in us that influences our self image for the rest of our lives. One of the most important lessons we learn is trusting ourselves. How many times do we think, “I hope I’m making the right choice” or “I trust it will all work out”. When we trust our body to birth, one of our most basic body functions, we learn to trust less other issues that surely will come.
10.. Why does it matter
A. “So as a women lives, so does she give birth” or “so as a woman gives birth, so does she live”?
I believe that couple intimacy is the physical manifestation of an emotional commitment. When two people share an emotional bond through their friendship, love and respect, it can culminate in a physical relationship that depends on trust and a willingness to expose our selves in a vulnerable way to each other. This is a gift we give to the one we love and do so in a desire to create oneness and a wholeness that we reserve for only one other. It is what makes our relationship special/sacred and different from the other relationships we share. I also believe that birth is the physical beginning of an emotional commitment as a family. When it is a family centered experience, the family is strengthened, the partner feels more involved and there is less sibling rivalry. When we get married, we invite our loved ones and friends to the service to witness our commitment to each other. Their responsibility is to remind us of how happy we were on that day, how much in love we were and that the event really happened. They help us internalize an immense moment. Birth is another immense moment. Those who are there with us, serve as a forever witness of that day, the strong work we did, the triumph we experienced and the love that was created and enhanced. Is it not then very important that we create a birthday for mothers and babies that will do for parenting what a marriage ceremony did for a couple? Invite those to be present who have the ability to honor your process, hold space for safety and sacredness and who are willing to remind you that you did something wonderful on one special day.
B. The baby benefits by the experience of the mother
I recently read a statement from a man who said, “I hope to go out this world the same way I came in, warm, wet, and torn from the arms of the woman I love”. It sort of epitomizes our cultures feelings about normal birth. I wish he had said “…and wrapped in the arms of the woman I love”. Such small words, such powerful meanings. Babies have feelings and they also are emotional sponges. They are also primed to fall in love at birth as the same love hormones in mom transcend the placental membrane and enter your baby. They soak up the good or the bad and they make infant determinations as to how they respond to life. We can make a difference by keeping the mother/baby/family connection strong. That is where the power is. That is where strength comes from. Being wanted and loved from birth. Having our mothers love cannot be oversimplified.
C. Strong desire to help women understand their power and worth.
~Credentials ~ Experience ~ Certifications~
Mother of 9
Grandmother of 19
Midwifery Assistant Workshop Summer 1992 with Alison Osborn LM, CPM
Midwifery Assistant for a Home Birth practice 1989-1998
Junior Midwife One Heart Midwifery Care 1998-2001
Licensed Midwife 2001-present
Certified Professional Midwife 2001-present
Neo-Natal Resusitation Certified
Attend Bi-Monthly Peer Review
As of 2009 attended over 600 births